Get the Life You Want by Richard Bandler

NLP Self-help Book Shares Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Changes

Feb 15, 2009

Richard Bandler, king of NLP, offers 35 years of expertise in this book with a free CD for mind-programming. When people change their thoughts they change their lives.

Get the Life You Want by Richard Bandler promises what many people are looking for: the secrets to quick and lasting life changes. The free mind-programming CD is effective and easy listening, despite the rather odd music, and Bandler’s drawling voice. It utilises the hypnotic techniques and relaxation methods common to NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming).

NLP and Silva Mind Control

Dr. Richard Bandler, along with Dr. John Grinder developed NLP in the 70s, in the same era that Jose Silva developed the Silva Mind Control method. Both NLP and the Silva method believe that people become what they think they are are. For example, people with a poor self-image will have problems asserting themselves at work and may be needy in relationships, constantly seeking approval. This behaviour reinforces their poor self-image and they begin to believe that they are worthless.

To change this, Richard Bandler says people have to reprogram their thoughts. This in turn will change the way they feel, which will change the way they act. It may seem easy, but both NLP and Silva Mind Control methods require effort and determination.

Richard Bandler's mind-programming techniques in Get the Life You Want are offered in the style of a self-help workbook. Through a series of practical exercises the reader is given clear instructions on how to do everything from preparing for exams or interviews, to making good decisions and giving up smoking. There are also the obligatory sections on making more money and improving prospects for romance.

NLP and Relationships

Yes, there are tips on flirting, but there is also a surprisingly sensitive section on using NLP in love and relationships. This advocates using techniques to deepen the feelings for a current partner rather than seeking out a new one. The author calls it “Falling More in Love”. It is refreshing to read advice which includes listening more to your partner and appreciating existing relationships.

NLP to Create Good Feelings

Get the Life You Want challenges “bad” beliefs, those that are not useful, and promotes the building of “good” beliefs. The book shows how to use mind-programming tools to create good feelings, reduce stress and get the things that make life worthwhile. Richard Bandler believes that people already have all the resources they need to make any change they wish.

Yes, this method is simple, and it is hard work to keep at it. Changing one’s mind can indeed happen in an instant but realistically, life changes may take much, much longer. This is not a quick-fix NLP self-help book, but a serious approach offering new ways of being in the world. That has to be a good thing given the nature of the world at this time.

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